You do not speak for me, Professor Dawkins. You do not speak for me. Rape is rape. There are no sliding scales involved. One does not simply grade the levels of violence or threat involved to determine who has suffered most. There is no graph to determine the level of harm done.
You do not speak for me, Professor Dawkins. You have no authority to determine my experience. You have no right to claim your belief is worth more than my knowledge. You offer your opinion, Professor Dawkins. I can offer to explain to you my life. Yet I know this is futile, as you will not listen to me. You will tell me I do not 'get it'.
You do not speak for me, Professor Dawkins. I am a victim of rape. Shall I tell you this again? I was raped, Professor Dawkins. I shall not share with you the details. I was raped, like countless other women and girls. There was no knife. I was not threatened. I was physically harmed, but not beaten. There was no external bruising or blood. Does this mean it was not a serious rape, Professor Dawkins?
You do not speak for me, Professor Dawkins. You cannot assert that your understanding of something you have no experience of somehow makes you better qualified to judge on the severity of rape. All rape is violence, Professor Dawkins. It is a violation, an attack, an act of destruction. It is not a theft. It is not ‘taking advantage’. It is violence, Professor Dawkins.
You do not speak for me, Professor Dawkins. You betray how little you think of rape victims when you accuse us of ‘not getting it’. We do get it, Professor Dawkins. Our understanding of what rape is, how it changes us, how we live our lives afterwards. This may be simply word games, pedantry, semantics to you. You may take enjoyment in believing you are being clever. You may wish to elevate your supporters by praising them for ‘getting it’. You do not speak for me.
You do not speak for me, Professor Dawkins. There is nothing mild about rape, whatever the circumstances. One is not ‘merely’ raped by a partner, as opposed to ‘violently’ raped by a knife wielding stranger. In both situations, there is a rapist. In both situations, rape occurs. In the aftermath of rape, there is a victim. A victim who has to make sense of what has happened to her. Her experience is not to be plotted, graded, weighed up by you, or anyone else, Professor Dawkins. You do not speak for her. You do not speak for me.